What To Do When All Heck Breaks Out!
10 qualities that make people resilient
Gosh what a week! My mother had some issues happening besides poor health. She was robbed!
The worse of the matter was that other seniors in her complex experienced missing things too.
Not living in the same community was frustrating. I couldn’t be there to protect her, and she was not in any shape to leave even for a few days.
All in all, somehow nothing was happening to support these elder members of a small community. Nothing was happening except they were feeling very invaded, invalidated, hurt and ignored.
So my sister talked me into writing a letter to the editor of the local small town paper. I wanted to call it “What happens in a small town, DOESN’T stay in a small town.” Eventually it was headlined as “Abuse of seniors right in our own back yard!!!”
My original letter was, well to be honest, over 5 pages with a lot of emotion and anger. When sis edited the draft, she laughed and sent back 3 paragraphs! What? That’s it?
The truth is, a letter to the editor is brief, concise and states a point. And this little one caught a lot of local small town attention! Woo-Hoo!
No one was blamed, everyone was asked to be accountable and if they didn’t want to be relied on as services and support for all members of the community, they should move away!
All I wanted was to bring awareness and hope that the people of a small town dig deep into their conscience, knowing they too will get old and reliant, and hope they don’t get taken advantage of one day.
I was proud of my mom. She did bounce back. She felt heard, supported and now all the hoop-la with her name in the paper, well, needless to say, she’s getting some attention in a good way!
That’s what I wanted to write in this issue. Resiliency.
Can you “bounce back” from hard times and misfortune? Could you adapt to new situations and challenges in healthy ways?
Many people have confidence that they can rely on their abilities and strengths to see them through life’s difficult challenges.
But some, well, especially seniors with limited mental and physical mobility, need a little extra support to bounce back from stuff that they don’t expect in addition to their aging.
Even now, many health professionals recognize resiliency is a critical factor in determining coping skills and future behavior.
What Qualities Make You Resilient?
(adapted from the Teacher Information Series at aadac.com)
1. Perceptiveness: You understand people and situations, and you can question what is happening in your family, school or community.
2. Service: You give of yourself to others or to a cause that you believe in.
3. Independence: You can separate yourself from your family troubles and are confident that you can make your way in the world.
4. Optimism: You have hope for a bright future for yourself and the world.
5. Connection: You can seek out support from others and form caring and positive relationships.
6. Self-motivation: You have the drive to fulfill your dreams and goals.
7. Creativity: You can express your experiences in a constructive and helpful way.
8. Spirituality: You have faith in something greater than yourself.
9. Sense of humour: You can see the funny side of the world and your circumstances, and use this ability to put things into perspective.
10. Morality: When you make a decision, you use the information you have about the situation and you consult your own conscience (your sense of right and wrong.
Applying the above qualities helped write the letter to the editor, soften the fears and frustrations of the seniors in town, and finally brought awareness to the people and services who could help.
Let’s see what happens next!