“No memory is ever alone; it’s at the end of a trail of memories, a dozen trails that each have their own associations.” – Louis L’Amour (Ride the River)
Recall is how we bring back or remember what was learned, believed or stored.
Recalling can be challenging or simple. It depends on the energetic charge the data or memory has. If you don’t want to look at something, you won’t. That’s where decision comes in. You decide whether you want to remember something or block it out.
So how does the data become unconscious? Repetition, repetition, repetition!
The process goes like this: you experience a situation by either feeling good about it or felling bad. Then you begin to process that data in your thoughts and make a decision whether it’s true or a lie you’re telling yourself. Finally, you talk about it, dream about it, confirm it’s validity and wha-la, it becomes believable.
Now you have committed to believing it and it starts to show up in your life.
That’s the power of the universal law of attraction. Simple as that.
If the belief doesn’t serve you, the next step is to figure out when you formed it.
Here’s what will.
What busts this belief actually goes back to something much more basic: take a closer look at the source. What’s the source? Your story!
Here’s short yet powerful action step:
Grab that pen and paper and begin to write the answers to these questions:
1. Who’s the authority in your past who wrote the rules of who wins in the game of having money or not?
2. Have you ever seen any rules?
3. Have you just carried forward a bunch of hearsay from childhood that you never thought to question?
Maybe they told you that you weren’t worthy of having more than someone else, or more than they had.
Were you told you were not being “worthy of”?
Tell the truth and be brave. Tell yourself your story and then we’re going to settle this argument once and for all.
What I’m also suggesting is be vulnerable here. Open up and admit (to yourself) which event triggered the most damage to your esteem.
Think of a time when you were disappointed, hurt, or worse, disillusioned about your own power and ability to make a difference in your life.
Take a few moments and remember that incident.
Write it down.
Our beliefs became established at a very early age. For most of us, when we get a belief like “I’m not good enough” it comes from interacting with our parents or primary caregiver when we were small.
But a word of caution here.
Discovering that “I’m not good enough” coming from parents, does not give any of us permission to blame them.
In fact, most parents did their very best with us. And they loved us. They played out what they knew probably learned from their parents and so on.
What parents don’t realize is that children (including themselves) were forming beliefs all along.
No one really had much training. They just didn’t realize the impact they had on children. Most didn’t intend any harm at all.
This next statement is general and although researched, is also my opinion.
Parents want their children to be obedient and children want to explore.
Even though it’s a core judgment about raising children, stuff happens anyway.
You may have experienced something like this. You may not have done what your parents wanted you to do. So they looked annoyed, said nothing, or said a lot.
You don’t need to remember a specific incident. But you do remember their reaction. That’s all you need to remember to set the belief in motion.
Once you realize that there are no rules about who should and shouldn’t have money, and many people who are dishonorable (hence, unworthy) have money, this myth has been busted.
Shelves of books have been written on the role of self-worth, fear, blame, guilt, and shame in people’s unwillingness to know where they stand financially, emotionally, in business and personal relationships.
I won’t go into all the details here, but I can assure you that everyone I’ve worked with has told me (once they were willing to get honest about their real story) that it was never as bad as they had imagined.
It never is. When we don’t know, we imagine the absolute worst. And, somehow, by knowing the real reasons behind the fears, those fears suddenly hold far less power over you. They become just situations.
Write your story and become aware of it’s energy. Then let it go. Soften the impact it’s had on you over the years.